Unfortunately, many of these ways of thinking are traps. Your emotions control what you are thinking and thereby also controlling your vision of what reality is. You however need to break this pattern thinking to change your life and achieve whatever you aim at.
Recognize and acknowledge the problem
The first stage of changing is to recognise the problem. More often than not people don’t think there is a problem so there is no need to change. Changing pattern thinking may take a very long time. So, it is better you recognize it now to break it before it is too late.
Be in the present to break negative pattern thinking
One of the most common pattern thinking is negative thinking. It thinking can take the form of imagining or expecting that bad things will happen or that nothing good will ever happen for you. It is a deep down inability to believe you are worthy of anything good happening to you. Negative thoughts mostly flow from two directions. The first is thinking about the past, thinking the problems and mistakes you underwent. The second is fear of future and worrying about of what may or may not happen for yourself or your loved ones.
To become more fully conscious and able to step out of thinking processes, redirect your attention out of thought and into the here and now. Give the present moment your absolute undivided attention.
Embrace surprises to forgo confirmation bias thinking
We all come with a set of beliefs that got engrained into our systems as children, either from our parents or teachers or friends. As we grow these beliefs get so deep into our system that we fail to accept anything that redefines it. This involves accepting only information and data that support your current beliefs and values. We turn deaf to rest of the information. To overcome prejudice, we need to first embrace surprises when they happen to us. When you feel that something didn’t go exactly as you expected, consider that you need to refine some hypotheses about how things are working. You can stick to your roots, but don’t stop yourself from considering others.
Understand everything is not black and white
While we understand that everything has shades of grey, we tend to deny it. Either it is all or none. This is called black and white pattern thinking, where you don’t recognize shades of gray. No flexibility. Indeed, these patterns of thinking encourage rigidity and not resilience. It can damage your sense of self, well-being, happiness, and relationships. It prohibits you from seeing things as they really are.
Accept all possibilities. Life is way too complex to define it as black or white. Nothing is totally bad or good. So, you should first stop analyzing, obsessing about the details, over-analyzing and trying to control outcomes. Stop finding faults.
Think of worst-case scenario when you get catastrophic thoughts
Do you always feel like the world is coming to an end? Catastrophic pattern thinking is something many possess. Catastrophic thinking needs continuous introspection. In order to do this, you must first identify it for what it is, an irrational worst-case scenario. The second step in the process of dealing with catastrophic thinking is to identify best-case possibilities. What is the worst that can happen? And do we really have control over bad things? Such thinking will only increase anxiety and prevent people from taking action in a situation where action is required.
(Image Credit: Thinkstock)