Nobody likes to think about ending a relationship, but sometimes you have to face the hard truth: things just aren’t going to work out.
Figuring out whether you should end a serious relationship will almost always leave you torn and confused. We enlist a few indications to pay heed to.
Habit and love are different
We often tend to jumble up between these two. Going out in the evening or spending time at the library together may be a good option. But don’t confuse between them. You may be habituated to drop her home after a long walk, but that’s not love. (also read: This Is What Famous Personalities Told Themselves When They Hit A Roadblock)
There’s no drive to put effort to make things work
If you’ve proposed more dates, taken more trips, been more supportive and tried to take better interest in your partner’s interest, then you’ve given it a fair shot. If either of you isn’t willing to put effort into the relationship, then it’s fair to stop lingering and admit that you’ve already checked out.
Trust is lost
It’s easy to say “forgive and forget”, but it isn’t so simple. If, at the end of the day, they can’t regain your trust, the relationship might not be salvageable. Trust is one of the most important building blocks of any relationship, and if you or your partner did something to break it, it can be hard to let go. Perhaps they cheated, invaded your privacy, or shared your secrets with their friends. (Also read: Why You Should Not Think Twice Before Quitting (Sometimes)
Physical or psychological abuse
If there’s physical abuse, or/and emotional abuse in the relationship, the matter is quite serious. In both cases, you should get out right away. Often the two collide, but not always. We’re often told to get out of physically abusive relationships immediately, but the damage an emotionally abusive partner can do is also significant, and shouldn’t be overlooked.
You are unable to express yourself freely
It’s tough to find someone whose goals align perfectly with your own. Be flexible, but keep in mind the things you won’t negotiate on. If you’re not willing to make any sacrifices in your career, say so, and figure out together if you two can make it work. If not, you two might not be meant for one another. If you feel caged or criticised for expressing yourself, it’s time to move on.